Carefree in 3… 2… 1… go 💁🏾♀️ 👏🏾
How to Accept Yourself
1. Focus on your positive qualities. It’s true that we can all improve in some ways – but start by finding your good qualities – and recognise that these are a major part of who you are.
2. Be aware of, and fight against, your negative self-talk. Negative self talk can quickly snowball and become an angry tirade against yourself – so you become your own worst critic and your own worst enemy. Instead, choose to respect yourself, to love, affirm and believe in yourself.
3. Don’t dwell on things you know you cannot change. We all have imperfections, weaknesses and flaws. They’re really not that crucial, and they’re not that big a deal. Try to keep them in perspective – and change what you CAN change.
4. Make your own decisions – don’t always look to others, and think that they know better … But choose to trust yourself.
5. Always try to do your best – as that’s all that is required. You’re a normal human being who’ll sometimes get it wrong. Get up, forgive youself, then just choose to move on.
Food for Thought
If the message is important to you, then the delivery should just the same. If it’s not delivered properly, was the message ever received?
7 Key Insights on Self Love
1. I need to affirm and to validate myself as it’s hard to accept validation from others if, deep down inside, I don’t believe it’s true.
2. My time is valuable as anybody else’s so I need to prioritise what I need to do.
3. I can’t give to others, and help to build them up, if I’m not taking care of my own self first.
4. I need to remember that I’m worthy of love, of success, opportunities, and knowing happiness.
5. My opinions are as valuable as anybody else’s. It’s up to me to decide and to choose my own beliefs.
6. I don’t have to explain why I do what I do (unless you’re the police or have some authority!)
7. My past does not define me - I’m free to change and grow, to try on different “me”s, and to set inspiring goals.
BIPOC Aesthetic Blog Follow List
So, The last aesthetic post I made got…. WAY more attention than I thought it would. It brought some discord, some appreciation, and some people forgetting who and why I made the post. But this time around I want to bring light to blogs that are run by BIPOCs from a variety of aesthetics on the 100 day anniversary of that infamous post! Message me or put below any that I missed!💖
Cottagecore
@heavenly-wisps -Black owned.🍯
@chenillecottage - Mi’kmaq/First Nation owned. 🍯
@iridessence -Black owned. She’s the big sister of any soft black girls. Kinda soft, Kinda cottagecore. Think of the Marie Antoinette movie by Sofia Coppola. 💖🍯
@labelleriviere -Black owned. 🍯
@melanincottage -Black owned. BEAUTIFUL I”M SCREAMING.🍯
@heydolly - Black owned. Cottagecore and soft. Also gorgeous.💖🍯
@lunascottage -Mixed owned. Cottage Witch. She seems so cool and I love her. 💖👀🍯
Dark Academia/Light Academia
@sadsapphicwriter & @academiabutmakeitdiverse - Black owned, My favorite academia blog, beautiful blog, beautiful person, I love her.💖📚
@melancholic–skies -Black owned. 📚
@a-brown-darkacademic - Desi owned.📚
@isotheia - Black owned.📚
@bipocaesthetic -Black owned, Mixture of DA and cottagecore.📚
@thewomanwhoreads -Black owned. 💖📚
@theacademiccottage -Black owned, cottagecore and dark academia. 💖📚
@darker-academia -Black owned. 💖📚
@muslimah-in-academia -Indian owned. 💖📚
@tsuronhema -Black owned. check out her art blog: @char-it 📚
@black-academia -Black owned, great for finding other blogs.📚
Warm/Domestic/Yearning (Honestly, this is my favorite aesthetic now. These blogs, ugh, they make everything feel better 💖💖💖💖)
@peoplehood - Tejano/Mexican owned, Their blog is *Mwah* bellissima, If you want to have domestic yearning hours please check them out.💖💖🥭
@kafkasbf - Black owned. 💖🥭
@marvelous-daydreams -Black owned.💖🥭
@petaldoom -Black owned. 💖🥭
@icarusgf - Chinese Owned. 💖🥭
Soft/Kawaii/Princesscore
@candybisous -Black owned. Camri is absolutely gorgeous, inside and out. Her instagram is So good. 💖👑
@softblackgirls -Black owned. 👑
@duveteuse-tulipe- Black owned. 👑
@angelicallyblack -Black owned. Amazing advice. 💖👑
@ggnossienne -Black owned. A beautiful Fae. 💖👑
@pinkpoundcake -Black owned, Nsfw, Her art is A1, Beautiful. 💖👑
@babyfairy -Mixed Owned. Bri isn’t completely a kawaii blog but she is the funniest person on this site and she needs more attention. 💖👑
@melaninpsycho -Black Owned. 👑
Luxury/Sugar Baby/Hypergamy (I don’t really care for the hypergamy lifestyle but the aesthetic is kinda A+. TW if you have BDD or deep insecurities with eurocentric beauty standards, I tried not to pick blogs that talk about changing looks/plastic surgery)
@blackprincessenergy -Black owned. 💵
@blackfemmeguide -Black owned. A mixture of softness and luxury.💖💵
@luxus-aeterna - iridessence’s secondary blog. A gorgeous mix of Dark royalcore, dark academia & cottagecore. No Hypergamy, no TW, All pure indulgence. 💖💵
@brownskinblair - Black owned. The name of the game is on the tin, think blair waldorf if she had a tumblr and melanin. 💖💵
@blk-vinluxee - Black owned. MY QUEEN, her instagram is So beautiful, it’s annemarie.akin 💵
@etherealclit -Black owned. 💵
@angelicallyafrican -Black owned. Mix between soft and Luxury. 💖💵
Y-2K/It-girl (TW of you have BDD or deep insecurities with eurocentric beauty standards)
@dreamgrlarchive - Black owned, learn how to be your own dream girl. Think Barbie meets Bratz. 💖💋
@thevirgodoll - Black owned, dreamgrlarchive’s sister. Check out her new blog. UwU 💋
@s0fthunny -Mixed owned. Great advice.💋
Besides Chanda all of these should be Black Owned, though y’all can correct me if i’m wrong. There are more if you check who i’m currently following.
@softestruler (me) - Academia, Warm/Domestic, and Luxury (occasionally soft and cottagecore)
@chandajaan - Desi Owned. Academia
@soft-pastel-clouds - Soft. (same person as @melancholic–skies/@heavenly-wisps)
@mysoftangel - Luxury and Femininity
@joli–coeur - Academia and Warmth
@afriqluv - Soft and Cottagecore
@nsaint1 - Luxury and Self Care
@black-femininity-exists - Luxury, Femininity, and Hypergamy
@chocolat-miel-lapin - Warm and Domestic
@blackgirlluxury - Luxury
@roseluxebabe - Luxury
@call-me-your-ala - Luxury
@vetta-sol - Academia
@princesslily - Academia
@ochre-wombn - Warm/Domestic
@blackbarbiedollxo - Luxury
@eyeofasya - Warm/Domestic
@tiffanygranted - Academia
@blvk-orbit - Warm/Domestic
@daughtersofthesun - Warn/Domestic
@glowfawn - Academia
@romanticlikekeats - Academia
@mrcmxwll - Warm/Domestic and Cottagecore
@melanated-angel - Academia
@hallofcore - Academia
@bougie-tenshi / @cottage-tenshi - Luxury and Cottagecore
@sai-reads - Academia
@shalomamme - Academia
@mikablack - Academia
How come I am just now seeing this? Go follow all the other black girlies neow